💔Ah yes, your Picker. Let’s talk about it.
If your dating history looks like copy-paste with different haircuts, this is your section.
Your picker isn’t broken because you’re dumb.
It’s broken because it was trained on chaos, potential, and vibes instead of actual compatibility.
Here’s what you’ll find:
- The patterns you keep pretending not to see
- The red flags you renamed “chemistry”
- And the truth about why you keep choosing emotionally unavailable humans with great smiles
This isn’t about blame.
It’s about awareness… with a side of “girl, be so serious.”
If you’re ready to stop dating the same person in a different body—
start here.
- Online Dating – Ugh! Am I Right…Still?
Who is still out there doing the online dating game? I have notes, questions (tons of questions) and a phone number to a good therapist cuz that situation can be traumatizing! Seriously – have we not seen Catfish and 90-Day Finance?!?! That mess will keep you from online dating instantly, but still, there are those… Read more: Online Dating – Ugh! Am I Right…Still? - Where was my head? (FP, 2015)
The last Fighter Pilot post had me spiraling down the rabbit hole once again. We hadn’t had communication for 2+ months (over the holidays) and then he emailed me….. and, here we go again. I’m not sure why I wanted to go down that hole again. I was starting to feel good about things again.… Read more: Where was my head? (FP, 2015) - Online dating. Nope! Just Duck, Duck, Goose!
Let’s talk about online dating…. also known as…a really messed up game of Duck, Duck, Goose! Now, I’ve experienced online dating but it has been several years. Even then, maneuvering that world and all of the deceitful individuals left a ton to be desired. I was shocked, although I’m really not sure why, that the… Read more: Online dating. Nope! Just Duck, Duck, Goose! - T.O.E.s, not toes
T.O.E. is “term of endearment”, not toe as in your tootsies. Have you ever “not” called your significant other a certain T.O.E. because you called your ex the same thing? Mr. FP specifically said he would not call me babe or baby because that is what he called his ex and it made him think… Read more: T.O.E.s, not toes - New Year, not necessarily new beginnings (FP, 2015)
Last Saturday, the saga with Mr. Fighter Pilot left off with the holidays…I spent them with my girls. I was moving on with my life, fighter pilot free. The new year started off great. A really good thing about living so close to Destin, Florida? You can go to the beach whenever you want. So,… Read more: New Year, not necessarily new beginnings (FP, 2015) - Go or No-Go for the holidays (FP, 2014)
It was just before Thanksgiving and I was wondering if I would hear from Mr. FP as the plan was for him to come and stay with me. So, I waited to hear….and waited some more…and then it was Thanksgiving Day….and there was no word from him. I was hurt, of course I was hurt.… Read more: Go or No-Go for the holidays (FP, 2014) - Let the games begin (FP, 2014)
I’ve left Mr. Fighter Pilot in Fallon, NV and traveled home to Florida. Let the head games begin… We would talk every day and a few times he came back to Florida to see his kids and to finalize his divorce. Of course he stayed with me when he came into town but we would… Read more: Let the games begin (FP, 2014) - Arriving to Fallon, NV – home of TOP GUN (FP, 2015)
OK – the last we visited Mr. FP I was driving across the country with him as he was being stationed in Fallon, NV at TOP GUN. Yes, it’s true. He was going to be an instructor pilot at TOP GUN. The drive there was pretty non-eventful. We stopped in Texas to visit his mother… Read more: Arriving to Fallon, NV – home of TOP GUN (FP, 2015) - Broken Picker: The Cooper Chronicles
Ask and you shall receive! That’s right – short stories coming your way. Do you remember when you were young, talking with your friends about the “type” of boyfriend or girlfriend you wanted to date? Back when you’re 12 years old, the characteristics were always physical – blonde hair, blue eyes, short, tall, etc. I… Read more: Broken Picker: The Cooper Chronicles - Road Trippin?! Maybe…(FP, 2015)What happened after I put the kaleidoscope glasses back on once I received the email from Mr. Fighter Pilot proclaiming his never-ending love for me? Well, let me tell you….we had about a 7-hour phone call talking about everything that had gone wrong. BUT – it wasn’t without him making sure that I needed to… Read more: Road Trippin?! Maybe…(FP, 2015)
- Rose colored glasses? Make mine Kaleidoscope! (FP, 2014)Why do people stay in relationships with individuals who are not good for them? Why can’t they see that the person is not good for them while they are in the relationship? Mental and emotional abuse is a real thing. I can say that at this point in the relationship, I was not telling everyone… Read more: Rose colored glasses? Make mine Kaleidoscope! (FP, 2014)
- Do as I say, not as I do (FP, 2014)While Mr. Fighter Pilot and I continued our long distance relationship he seemed to have issues with me doing anything outside of my home. He would always ask who I was going to lunch with, who I was talking to at the gym, who I was having drinks with at the wine bar…you name it,… Read more: Do as I say, not as I do (FP, 2014)
- We now return to your regularly scheduled programming…The Fighter Pilot Saga (FP, 2014)When I left you last, we had just finished talking about the FP picking a fight so he could do what he wanted. That never really changed for the duration of our relationship. This post is about him coming to Florida to see me and his children. Now, if you haven’t read the previous posts… Read more: We now return to your regularly scheduled programming…The Fighter Pilot Saga (FP, 2014)
- So Many Red FlagsWe’re going to continue down the “separated” rabbit hole. This story is about a man I met in California while, again, minding my own business. The home I lived in was 100+ years old and there was a rat in the basement that I could not get rid of….enter big, rat man by way of… Read more: So Many Red Flags
- 🦇💩🤪 Does Exist!I interrupt your regularly scheduled programming (Fighter Pilot Drama) to bring you a story that is too ridiculous not to share. I actually had to take a little break from everything to decompress and process with my family. What I’m about to tell you is true – my imagination is good but not this far-fetched!… Read more: 🦇💩🤪 Does Exist!
- Fighter Pilot Picked a Fight (FP, 2014)While Mr. Fighter Pilot (FP) was in training in Virginia to become a TOPGUN instructor pilot, we tried to see each other as much as possible. I would go there for a long weekend and he would come down to Florida. Of course I had to split the time with his kids, which I had… Read more: Fighter Pilot Picked a Fight (FP, 2014)
- Patience or StupidityThe majority of individuals don’t get to their fifties without some relationship baggage and I am no different. I, however, have been to therapy to help deal with and unpack my baggage, whereas there are MANY individuals who have NOT. I seem to attract those whose baggage comes in the form of living with their… Read more: Patience or Stupidity
- What was I thinking cont’d…(FP, 2014)I know it’s been 5 years since I last posted about Mr. Fighter Pilot (FP) but I will be more consistent in the future. So, here we go! First, I can tell you that I did not roll out of the car on the way back from dropping off the dog, although I wanted to.… Read more: What was I thinking cont’d…(FP, 2014)
- As of March 28th, 2024 I can confidently say my “Picker” is still completely broken! 🙂I have moved away from California but not before confirming that my Picker is still completely broken. Yes, folks, absolutely broken. Why do I say this? Well, for the past three years I was in an on and off relationship with a man who was separated and going through a divorce. Uhmmmmmm, well, this is… Read more: As of March 28th, 2024 I can confidently say my “Picker” is still completely broken! 🙂
- What was I thinking?!?!? (FP, 2014)Clearly, I lost my mind for that one night but Mr. Fighter Pilot brought me crashing down to reality with his one statement and I couldn’t get him out of my house fast enough. I just wanted to get in the shower and forget the night ever happened. He was leaving to go TDY (temporary… Read more: What was I thinking?!?!? (FP, 2014)
- I was just minding my own business when he came along….ugh! (FP, 2014)I met my ex at work. I was civil service, working admin in the front office of the squadron and he was an active duty fighter pilot. I thought he was very attractive, nice and extremely charming. He stopped at my desk one day to ask me a work-related question. I helped him with some… Read more: I was just minding my own business when he came along….ugh! (FP, 2014)