Ask and you shall receive! That’s right – short stories coming your way.
Do you remember when you were young, talking with your friends about the “type” of boyfriend or girlfriend you wanted to date? Back when you’re 12 years old, the characteristics were always physical – blonde hair, blue eyes, short, tall, etc. I loved getting the notes asking me to be my “suitor’s” girlfriend. Or the “Do you like me? Check YES or NO” notes. Such simpler times. There were no DMs to slide into, no dating apps to peruse looking to see if the grass is greener, and catfishing was the act of actually getting your pole, going to the lake, pond, etc to go fishing. When you’re 12 years old the only games you’re thinking about playing are kickball, tetherball, 4-square and maybe 2-square. Oh, how times have changed! Now, I could pick a wedgie out from 3 miles away with nails that are sharper than a ginsu knife than pick a significant other!
The physical characteristics I thought would bring me the perfect significant other would change and evolve drastically as the years went by. I’ve been married twice and neither of those men had blue eyes and blonde hair….maybe I should have listened to my 12-year-old self! I thought a kind heart, amazing sense of humor and charming would be just a few of the characteristics that would surely bring me happiness…..NOT! As I’ve gotten older and experienced relationships that I would not wish on my worst enemy, I can say that I am definitely much wiser. I feel guarded but not jaded. I don’t think all men are the same as I wouldn’t want men to think I am like every other woman they’ve dated – cuz I’m not! In fact, as I listen to others tell me about their current relationships or what they are looking for in a partner, I know I am not like anyone else. It’s taken me a long time to see that, but I do – and it’s very clear. My gut is my best friend…I will always listen to that over my head and my heart. (They seem to argue a lot and make excuses for their actions and feelings!) Now, I don’t rush anything when I meet someone new. I am my authentic self. I am very direct and honest. Tangible things? I make my own money and can provide those things for myself. I don’t need nor want someone to take care of me in that capacity. So, what do I tell those who ask me what I’m looking for in a relationship? A partner. A best friend. Someone who matches my craziness and loves to laugh. Someone who doesn’t look for the negative in things but can see the good in everything. Someone who wants to help others and brings out the good in others with a smile or greeting. Honest, open communication. Someone who will ask me for help when he needs it because he knows I will be there for him 100% without hesitation or judgement – because I am his partner. So, what do I want in a relationship? The world I guess! But that’s ok. I’ll wait. Until then, I will be writing short stories about my previous broken picker relationships, and you will be able to find them on my blog. Some of you have asked for the entire story because you can’t wait until the next post. Well, happy holidays! My present to you – “Broken Picker: The Cooper Chronicles”
Until next time…xoxo
Tracy
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